It Is Better To Have Love And Lost?

What Do You Think?

Just Seems To Me That The World Is So Contradictionary In Alot Of Ways And Im Sick Of It!

Argument -

If I Loved You, The You Left, Ive Lost You, But Ill ALWAYS Love You ..
So Yes I Know What Love Feels Like And I Can Say Ive Been In Love Before In This Scenario,
But Thats Means Ultimately You Miss It, Like Ive Said Before "Absence Doesnt Make The Heart Grow Fonder, It Just Leaves It To Wonder" You Shouldnt Need Love To Leave So You Can Miss It Enough To Want It Back For Good (Want You Back, Want You, Want You Back For Good) You Should Want It Regardless, Love Is A Beautiful Thing, But Most Beautiful Things Are Fragile And Rare Dear, And You Might Have To Learn That The Hard Way.
If You Dont Give Me Your Love And You Dont Express It, Im Gonna Be Left Thinking "What Is Going On In Your Head" And Personally Its A GAME I Dont Enjoy .. MIND READERS! Im Just Left Confused, Not Knowing Where I Stand - A Great Hero Once Said "Give Me One Steady Piece Of Land And I Will Move The Earth" Well Please, Give Me One Straight Answers And I Will Love You, Its That Complicated, Simple!

In Contrast, If Youve Never Laughed, Frankly You Dont Know What Your Missing, So You DONT Miss It, Cant Miss What Youve Never Had Right?

BUT (Yes You Should Of Learnt By Now, NOTHING I Blog Is Straight-Forward) .. You Always Want What You Dont Have And Its Basic Human Nature To Want What Other People Have.

Heres What Im Whinging About, MIXED SIGNALS! - I ALWAYS Go On About Playing Games, Games Are Fun, Playing Isnt! It Just Bugs Me That You Can Know What You Want, With Who, And When, Yet Another Person Can Be A Complete MESS And STILL Have More Luck Than You, Its Lunacy! I Just Wish People Would Sort Out There Emotions For Once :(

Im Not Saying Everyone Has To Know Exactly What They Want, When, How, Where, Why Etc .. But If Your Dont, Please Dont Pretend Your Ready And Utterly Stable, Just Be Up Front About It - I Really Just Think Weve All Fallen Into This Trap Called "Self-Perception" We See Ourselves As Things We Are Not, We Become False, We Fail At This Image, Bring Others Down With Us And Probably Waste Useful Time :/

Sorry This Isnt The Most Positive Blog, But Heres The Thing, Some People Just Really Need To Grow Up Before They Speak Up ...

"I Had You, I Lost You, Im Over You, I Dont Need You, Doesnt Mean I Dont Want You"

Thanks For Reading
Lots Of Love
xoxo

By Martyn S L David

Social Systems - Group Rules, Rule Groups.

Ok,



So We ALL Know That Different People In Our Groups Have Different Things About Them,

There Are Some Things You Say To One Person That Youd NEVER Say To Another,

Theres Some People Who You Can Talk To Seriously And Some Who Are There As Much Loved Entertainment,

There Are Those Who We Are So Hard On And Others Whom We NEVER Confront.



Im A VERY Facetious Person, Ill Do Anything To Avoid Confrontation, I Want To Be Everyones Friend And Ill Do Anything To Keep You Smiling,

But Heres The Thing .. NOT EVERYONE IS LIKE THAT.



Its A Weird Science "Physcogetusedtoyalogy" Or Theres The More Complicated On "Psychosocialinteractivity" Translation - We Learn To Love Our Friends, For Everything They Are, Everything There Not, Everything They Do, Everything They Dont, Everything They Say And Everything They Dont Say - But That Takes Time!



For Example - Imagine The Following People Are In A Group - The Queen Bee, The Queen Bee Equal, The Quiet One, The Boy Whose An All Rounder Etc Etc ..



You Would Never DREAM Of Purposely And Knowingly Annoying The Queen Bee, Because She Will Make You The Least Popular Person In The Group - However You Would Maybe Do It To The All Rounder Or Quiet One, Because You Can, There Passive And There Not Directly Linked To The Top! (I Know Im Making All Friendship Groups Sound Very Corporate And Plastic But Its Just A Funny Way To Describe Them!)

HOWEVER - Clause - You May NOT Do This To The Quiet One Incesently Because They Usually Are In Good Standing With The Queen So If You Get To Them, They Have The Queens Ear! Like Their Advisors!



In The Same Way There Are People You Only Talk To For The Aim Of Having Fun, Other People You Go Too With Problems, You Wouldnt Ask A Stupid Person About Quantum Physics Would You?! Same Principal Really

But Thats A Rather Narrow Analysis, If You Look At It In A Broader Context, You Have To Challenge Social Groups ..

For The Sake Of Discussion, Lets Use The LGBT Community As An Example ..

Boys - Feminine, Whimps, Good Fashion Sense, Wear Makeup, Dress As Women, Like Musicals, Idolize Britney Spears/Madonna/Cher (You Get The Jist) Sex Obsessed, Abnormal, Have High Voices, Want To Work In Entertainment, Have Bad Morals Etc Etc Etc Blah Blah Blah

Girls - Butch, Piercings, Tattoos, Short Hair, Agressive, Boring Style Etc Etc Blah Blah

True, These "Stereotypes" Can Be True And Alot Of Those Characteristics Are Inforced, But With These Preconceptions, You Form An Image That COULD Be Wrong And Usually Is.

Its Applies In ALL Areas Where Something Works As A Group Or Collection Of Individuals ..

My Point Of Course Is, If We Think These Things Then We Become Fooled Into A System - Its Almost Like A Game, It May Take The Rest Of Your Life To Learn The Rules, You Win Some, You Lose Some, Youll Hopefully Make Mistakes To Learn And Grow ..

BUT WHY PLAY GAMES?! I Dont Want To And I Try Not To,

"People And Their Emotions, Opinions, Personalities And Everything They Are Is Not Something To Be Played With, Theyre NOT Our Toys, And You Play Games With Toys"

So I Hope You Saw My Point, I Know This Has Been Quite A LONG Blog But It Had To Be Said, Because Trully ..

If Rules Are Set, We Are Ruled By Them, If Groups Are Formed, We Are Grouped

Get It. Good. Goodbye :)

Tilll nexty time ..

By Martyn S L David
Loves xoxo

When Does It Mean More ?

Most Of My Thoughts About Love And Relationships Arise While Watching Sex And The City - It Amazes Me How Insightful "Carrie Bradshaw" Really Is!

I Always Think About What She Writes On Her Computer And Last Night I Asked Myself This Question ..

"When Does Your Relationship Move From Infactuation To Love?"

Heres My Thoughts On The Structure Of A Relationship,

1) The Fake Stage -

Generally Lasts A Few Weeks To 2 Or 3 Months.

During This Time You Probably Were Attracted To Them With LUST- (Within The First Few Weeks Your Likely To Have Sex) When You Got To Know Them You Were ..

2) .. INFACTUATED!

Probably The Nicest Time In Your Entire Relationship - The Part When You Cant Stop Thinking About Them, When You Text Them 100 Times A Day, Talk To Them Over The Phone Til 2 In The Morning and When Your With Them You Just Get Your Camera Out Incesently! You Dream About The Future And Staying Together BUT Heres The Sad Part -

2B) "The Clause" No Not Santa Clause, Like A Clause In A Contract ..

No Matter How Much Time You Spend With Each Other, Its Never Enough, You Just Want More, You Worry When Your With Them About The Fact You Have To Go Home In An Hour, Or That You Wont See Them For A Week, All You Do Is Wish For The Day You Can Live And Be Together Always. This However Effectively Wastes Your Time, It Stops You Enjoying Your Time Together And Stops You From Being With Them.

3) Love .. Or Is It?

Time Youve Been Together Doesnt Really Matter Here But I Think 4-6 Months Minimum - At This Point, Infactuation And Indeed The Reality Of The Situation Settles Down. The Novelty In Effect Is Depleted, Now Your Used To Each Other And More Importantly You Can Honestly Say "I TRUST YOU" Like I Said, Timescale Isnt A Science, This Stage Comes After Tears, Tantrums, Trails, Smiles, Hugs, Kisses And Time - You Start Loving Them, And Not The Way They Make You Feel, The LUST Is Disastablished And The Infactuation Receeds, But Thats Not To Say The Relationship Stops Being Fun - Its Just Starts To Be REAL.

4) LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE

Its Just Love!

Congratulations - You Made It - Maybe Its All Worth It - Youve Got Forever To Find Out, Right?

So There Ive Done The Impossible And Actually Logically But Briefly Put A Relationship Onto Paper - Of Course If Your Following This Literally, Its A Pile Of Dung! Love Is NOT Logical And Thank Goodness!

"There Are Two Many Things In Life That Make Sense In Life, But Love Isnt One Of Them"

By
Martyn S L David
xoxo