When Does It Mean More ?

Most Of My Thoughts About Love And Relationships Arise While Watching Sex And The City - It Amazes Me How Insightful "Carrie Bradshaw" Really Is!

I Always Think About What She Writes On Her Computer And Last Night I Asked Myself This Question ..

"When Does Your Relationship Move From Infactuation To Love?"

Heres My Thoughts On The Structure Of A Relationship,

1) The Fake Stage -

Generally Lasts A Few Weeks To 2 Or 3 Months.

During This Time You Probably Were Attracted To Them With LUST- (Within The First Few Weeks Your Likely To Have Sex) When You Got To Know Them You Were ..

2) .. INFACTUATED!

Probably The Nicest Time In Your Entire Relationship - The Part When You Cant Stop Thinking About Them, When You Text Them 100 Times A Day, Talk To Them Over The Phone Til 2 In The Morning and When Your With Them You Just Get Your Camera Out Incesently! You Dream About The Future And Staying Together BUT Heres The Sad Part -

2B) "The Clause" No Not Santa Clause, Like A Clause In A Contract ..

No Matter How Much Time You Spend With Each Other, Its Never Enough, You Just Want More, You Worry When Your With Them About The Fact You Have To Go Home In An Hour, Or That You Wont See Them For A Week, All You Do Is Wish For The Day You Can Live And Be Together Always. This However Effectively Wastes Your Time, It Stops You Enjoying Your Time Together And Stops You From Being With Them.

3) Love .. Or Is It?

Time Youve Been Together Doesnt Really Matter Here But I Think 4-6 Months Minimum - At This Point, Infactuation And Indeed The Reality Of The Situation Settles Down. The Novelty In Effect Is Depleted, Now Your Used To Each Other And More Importantly You Can Honestly Say "I TRUST YOU" Like I Said, Timescale Isnt A Science, This Stage Comes After Tears, Tantrums, Trails, Smiles, Hugs, Kisses And Time - You Start Loving Them, And Not The Way They Make You Feel, The LUST Is Disastablished And The Infactuation Receeds, But Thats Not To Say The Relationship Stops Being Fun - Its Just Starts To Be REAL.

4) LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE

Its Just Love!

Congratulations - You Made It - Maybe Its All Worth It - Youve Got Forever To Find Out, Right?

So There Ive Done The Impossible And Actually Logically But Briefly Put A Relationship Onto Paper - Of Course If Your Following This Literally, Its A Pile Of Dung! Love Is NOT Logical And Thank Goodness!

"There Are Two Many Things In Life That Make Sense In Life, But Love Isnt One Of Them"

By
Martyn S L David
xoxo